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Goals of
misbehavior
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What
child is thinking
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How
adult feels and reacts
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Child's response to adult's
action
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Some
corrective guidelines
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| Attention |
I count only when I am being
noticed or served. |
Annoyed; wants to remind,
coax. |
Temporarily stops disturbing
action when given attention but soon continues;
-may begin new behavior to gain
attention. |
Ignore when possible; give
attention in unexpected ways;
-give attention for positive behavior; never give attention on
demand. |
| Power |
I count only when I am dominating,
when you do what I want you to do, when I can do whatever I
want. |
Provoked,angry; generally wants
power; -challenged; "l'll make him/her do it"; "You can't get away with
it." |
Intensifies action when
reprimanded;
-child
wants to win, be boss: defiance. |
Withdraw from conflict; act,
rather than talk;
-be friendly.Establish equality;
-redirect child's efforts into constructive
channels. |
| Revenge |
I can't be liked;I don't have
power but l'll count if I can hurt others as I feel hurt by
life. |
Hurt; "How can he/she do this to
me?"; -retaliates, tries to get even. |
Wants to get even; -makes self
disliked. -Seeks further revenge. |
Maintain order with minimum
restraint; -avoid retaliation or punishment.
-Take time and effort to help
child.
-Build
trusting relationship. |
| Display of inadequacy |
I can't do anything right so I
won't try to do anything at all; I am no good |
Despair, hopeless, discouraged; "I
give up." |
No reprimand therefore no
reaction;
-feels
there is no use to try;
-passive; no improvement |
Encourage any positive
effort;
-faith in a
child's ability;
-don't give up, pity or criticize.
-Be patient |
