Goals of misbehavior
What child is thinking
How adult feels and reacts
Child's response to adult's
Some corrective guidelines
count only when I am being noticed or served.
wants to remind, coax.
stops disturbing action when given attention but soon continues;
begin new behavior to gain attention.
when possible; give attention in unexpected ways;
attention for positive behavior; never give attention on demand.
count only when I am dominating, when you do what I want you to do,
when I can do whatever I want.
generally wants power; -challenged; "l'll make him/her do it";
"You can't get away with it."
action when reprimanded;
wants to win, be boss: defiance.
from conflict; act, rather than talk;
child's efforts into constructive channels.
can't be liked;I don't have power but l'll count if I can hurt others
as I feel hurt by life.
"How can he/she do this to me?"; -retaliates, tries to get
to get even; -makes self disliked. -Seeks further revenge.
order with minimum restraint; -avoid retaliation or
time and effort to help child.
can't do anything right so I won't try to do anything
at all; I am no good
hopeless, discouraged; "I give up."
reprimand therefore no reaction;
there is no use to try;
any positive effort;
in a child's ability;
give up, pity or criticize.