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Goals of
misbehavior
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What child
is thinking
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How adult
feels and reacts
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Child's
response to adult's action
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Some corrective
guidelines
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| Attention |
I count only when I am being noticed or
served. |
Annoyed; wants to remind, coax. |
Temporarily stops disturbing
action when given attention but soon continues;
-may begin new behavior to gain attention. |
Ignore when possible; give attention in
unexpected ways;
-give attention for positive behavior; never give
attention on demand. |
| Power |
I count only when I am dominating, when
you do what I want you to do, when I can do whatever I want. |
Provoked,angry; generally wants power;
-challenged; "l'll make him/her do it"; "You can't
get away with it." |
Intensifies action when
reprimanded;
-child wants to win, be boss: defiance. |
Withdraw from conflict; act, rather than
talk;
-be friendly.Establish equality;
-redirect child's efforts into constructive
channels. |
| Revenge |
I can't be liked;I don't have power but
l'll count if I can hurt others as I feel hurt by life. |
Hurt; "How can he/she do this to
me?"; -retaliates, tries to get even. |
Wants to get even; -makes self
disliked. -Seeks further revenge. |
Maintain order with minimum
restraint; -avoid retaliation or punishment.
-Take time and effort to help
child.
-Build trusting relationship. |
| Display
of inadequacy |
I can't do anything right so I
won't try to do anything at all; I am no
good |
Despair, hopeless, discouraged; "I give
up." |
No reprimand therefore no
reaction;
-feels there is no use to try;
-passive; no improvement |
Encourage any positive effort;
-faith in a child's ability;
-don't give up, pity or criticize.
-Be patient |
